The Matching Process
is an intentional, family-driven process of engagement and marriage. It’s been developed over decades of research and implementation and broken down into three steps:
Be the Right Person
This stage involves becoming a matching candidate making internal and external preparations before looking for a match.
Completion Requirements:
1) Education (Divine Principle and Level 2)
2) Health Exam and Blessing Interview
Find the Right Person
After you’ve become a matching candidate, use healthy and intentional methods to search for a potential spouse.
Completion Requirements:
1) Matching Plan and communication
2) Matching Report and Intentional Year
Prepare as a Couple
This stage involves creating a healthy relationship in preparation for the Marriage Blessing.
Completion Requirements:
1) Education (Level 3 attended together)
2) Blessing donation and registration
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Matching Articles
VISION
What is the Blessing Interview & Why is it Important?
The Blessing Interview is one of the required steps to becoming a matching candidate in the United States. Given that it is about reflecting on past mistakes and then reporting them to a Blessing Interviewer, the Blessing Interview can be rather intimidating. Should it be?
GROWTH
Preparing for a Relationship: Letting Go of Looking Good
Looking good is a powerful feeling. However, the desire to look good all the time can actually be a major limiting factor in the way we relate with others. To have the most fulfilling relationships with others, we need to learn to let go of the desire to look good.
CONTRIBUTION
Inclusion in the Matching Process
Watch this online discussion where we listened and learned about how to have a healthy approach to race and culture in the matching process.
Hear testimonies from inter-cultural Blessed Couples, breakout groups, Q&A panel.
Helpful Matching Videos
““At the end of the day, everyone has attractive qualities given to them by God.””
Is Attraction Important in the Matching Process?
Attraction is important to many people, but it's not the whole story... Perhaps the way in which we approach attraction is not as healthy as we think. In this video, Benjy discusses attraction in a healthy way and how you can navigate it productively in the Matching Process.
How to Talk Matching with Your Parents
Marjorie Buessing interviews Tasnah & Lukas, who successfully navigated the Matching Process together with their parents. Learn how to start the conversation and keep good communication throughout the process.
3 Pillars of Blessed Lifestyle
Vision
Every successful Blessing starts with a clear vision and purpose. Paint a picture of what your marriage and family will look like, and we’ll help you take the steps to get there.
Growth
Life is all about growth. Your spiritual and emotional growth is paramount in becoming the husband or wife that you want to become.
Contribution
Having a heart to give–rather than take–is essential in creating a healthy Matching process and Blessed marriage.
More Matching Resources
Find resources to help assist you throughout the matching process.
Matching Websites
Many couples have found each other through one of the Matching websites that our faith community has developed. Below is an outline of each of the websites and how to get started!
Matchbook for Blessed Children
Matching Support Webinars
Watch recordings of all the past Matching Support Webinars.
Matching Supporters & Blessing Interviewers
Matching Supporters are trained to support candidates and their families with tools and resources to navigate the Matching Process. They thoroughly understand the guidelines and procedures for the Matching Process.
Note: You will need to have an account in the BFM Education portal in order to see the list of Matching Supporters and Blessing Interviewers.
Forms & Documents
Here are BFM forms and documents.
5 Benefits of Reading the Matching Handbook
Over the years, the BFM has supported and educated families through the matching process, which is a tested and true method of helping people find a potential spouse, start healthy communication habits, build a relationship based on commitment and faith, and receive the Marriage Blessing.