Why Internal Character Is More Important Than External Achievements (Sun Moon Vlog) [Ep. 59]
Written By Blessing & Family Ministry
What lens are you using when searching for a potential match—an internal or external lens? In this episode, Benjy reflects on getting Blessed at 18 and prioritizing internal growth before external achievements.
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