Ownership: Let’s Stop Blaming Others [Ep. 139]
Everyone wants change, but very few people are willing to take ownership.
In this episode, Benjy shares why real change doesn't begin by blaming leaders, governments, or other people. It begins with ownership. He explores how taking responsibility for our thoughts, emotions, relationships, and faith empowers us to build stronger families, healthier communities, and a lasting culture of service.
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Step 1: God & Spirituality ▶ https://youtu.be/uoF46sgeRYw
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Step 3: Sexual Integrity ▶ https://youtu.be/2ZmapGYbRqA
Step 4: Your Matching Team ▶ https://youtu.be/iRt54eo-T8E
Step 5: The Matching Process ▶ https://youtu.be/ABR62KQusYg
Step 6: Finding the Right Person ▶ https://youtu.be/hKcVB_-yGug
Step 7: Create a Successful Blessing ▶ https://youtu.be/-4rruKWWQUA
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