The Real Problem in Our Church Isn’t What You Think [Ep. 135]
If you’re preparing for the Blessing, but still hiding parts of your life… this is for you.
In this episode, Benjy exposes the hidden struggle many are living with, and why honesty—not more effort—is what actually prepares you for the Blessing.
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7 Steps to a Successful Matching ▶ https://youtu.be/xVKa1DbzVGg
Step 1: God & Spirituality ▶ https://youtu.be/uoF46sgeRYw
Step 2: Understanding the Blessing ▶ https://youtu.be/D5jKj23DxOE
Step 3: Sexual Integrity ▶ https://youtu.be/2ZmapGYbRqA
Step 4: Your Matching Team ▶ https://youtu.be/iRt54eo-T8E
Step 5: The Matching Process ▶ https://youtu.be/ABR62KQusYg
Step 6: Finding the Right Person ▶ https://youtu.be/hKcVB_-yGug
Step 7: Create a Successful Blessing ▶ https://youtu.be/-4rruKWWQUA
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