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Marriage Blessing

What is the Marriage Blessing?

Rev. Sun Myung Moon and Dr. Hak Ja Han Moon, founders of Family Federation for World Peace and Unification, began the tradition of the Marriage Blessing in 1960. Based on their lifelong commitment to a world of strong marriages and empowered families, the Marriage Blessing has become a worldwide tradition where couples dedicate their marriage to a greater purpose and God. In response to the breakdown of traditional marriage in our world, the Marriage Blessing offers a path to build a world of stronger marriages and healthier families. The Marriage Blessing takes traditional marriage to a higher level of purpose.

The Holy Marriage Blessing Ceremony is a celebration of the commitment of one man and one woman to love each other eternally and to create a strong marriage and empowered family.

Why a Marriage Blessing Movement?

First and foremost, it’s an opportunity to bring comfort and joy to God. God is desperately longing for all His and Her children to be restored. Each time a couples receives the Marriage Blessing, God experiences tremendous joy, and the fulfilment of God’s ideal for humankind becomes more of a reality.

All of humankind needs to be restored to God’s lineage. This can only happen through the Marriage Blessing given by True Parents. The Marriage Blessing Movement helps make this possible.

True Parents have made it clear that all of God’s children need to receive the Marriage Blessing and become Blessed Families. By hosting Marriage Blessing Ceremonies more frequently and inviting couples to participate, we are directly responding to True Parents’ desire.

Receiving the Marriage Blessing is also one of the best ways for people to become a part of our Unification Family. Barriers in heart can be broken down when we are able to relate to each other as Blessed Family members instead of “members” and “guests.”

Through the Marriage Blessing Movement we can easily promote God’s original intention for marriage and families in our society in a very natural way.

Finally, in order to fulfil our role as Tribal Messiahs we need to give the Blessing, and this movement makes this possible.

“Why do we get the Blessing? In order to give the Blessing to others and see that the Blessing goes to the whole world.” – Rev. Sun Myung Moon, Blessing and Ideal Family

What is the Marriage Blessing Movement?

Essentially, it is an initiative to give more couples throughout America the opportunity to receive the Marriage Blessing from True Parents by having Marriage Blessing Ceremonies occur more frequently in more locations throughout America.

“The Unification Church mass wedding ceremony is not just a wedding ceremony of a man and a woman to make a family. Until now, marriage was centered on the individual self, but our wedding ceremony is holy and has the content to make God happy and the condition to indemnify history. Our marriage ceremony is to liberate God’s grief caused by Adam and Eve’s fall and fulfill what Jesus could not, which is to pass through the standard of the bridegroom and bride. This is explained clearly in the Divine Principle.” – Rev. Sun Myung Moon, Blessing and Ideal Family

What is the process to receive the Marriage Blessing?

The process involves three steps:

  1. Prepare: Get in touch with a FFWPU Pastor in your community. He or she will help you get orientated to the Marriage Blessing. Click here to read about the process.
  2. Register: When you’re ready to register for the Marriage Blessing Ceremony, click here.
  3. Attend: Join a Marriage Blessing Ceremony in your area! Click here to contact some near you.
What are the benefits of receiving the Marriage Blessing?

Here are some reasons to receive the Marriage Blessing.

  1. Renew or begin your marriage on a clean slate and create a new future together.
  2. Dedicate your marriage to a higher purpose or God.
  3. Increase the joy in your marriage and decrease your chance of divorce.
  4. Join a nationwide, supportive community of loving families and other Blessed Couples.
  5. Create a single commitment as a couple.
  6. Develop a deeper relationship based on faith and love.
Is there a payment plan for the Blessing Offering?

No. The Blessing Offering is an expression of gratitude for receiving the Marriage Blessing on your family, lineage, and marriage and should be prepared prior to applying to receive the Marriage Blessing, and must be paid in full before the Blessing Ceremony. For more details on the Blessing Offering, click here.

Where can I purchase a Blessing ring?

To purchase a Blessings ring, there are currently three options available:

  1. From Michael Brunkhorst in New Jersey.
  2. In Korea before at the accommodations before the Foundation Day Blessing Ceremony.
  3. In Cheong Pyeong at the convenient store.

For prices, details, and contact info, click here.

What if I cannot afford to purchase a Blessing ring before the Blessing Ceremony?

You can buy an inexpensive symbolic ring for the Blessing Ceremony and later on purchase a Blessing ring.

What is the Blessing Ceremony attire?

For brides, white wedding dress. For grooms, dark suit (blue or black), white shirt, and red tie.

Who can officiate the Blessing Ceremony?

The ceremony is officiated by certified Marriage Blessing Officiators who are approved by the President of FFWPU-USA and meet the qualifications for candidacy. They give the Marriage Blessing on behalf of True Parents. To view the application process to become an Officiator, click here.

What is the process for married couples to receive the Marriage Blessing?

Please read the document about the process for married couples to receive the Marriage Blessing. The path to the Marriage Blessing for married couples consists of two main steps.

Step 1: The first step is to attend the Blessing Ceremony. This means that the couple receives education on the Divine Principle and the Marriage Blessing. Then, the couple participates in the Holy Wine Ceremony and the Holy Marriage Blessing Ceremony.

Step 2: The second step is to become a Blessed Couple by completing the Five Steps. This means the couple completes the online registration and makes the full Blessing Offering of a minimum of $210 with a heart to offer $2000 per couple. Then, the couple participates in the Chastening Ceremony, the 40-Day Holy Separation, and the 3-Day Ceremony of Renewal.

These two steps can be done back to back or over a period of time as the couple receives more education.

Can Blessed Children couples participate in the Blessing Ceremony other than the annual Cosmic Blessing Ceremony?

At this time, True Mother has requested that Blessed Children couples receive the Marriage Blessing directly from her at the annual Cosmic Blessing Ceremony. Under certain circumstances, a matched couple can contact the National BFM to request special permission to participate in a Blessing Ceremony other than at the Cosmic Blessing Ceremony.

What is the difference between traditional marriage and the Marriage Blessing?

The Marriage Blessing is an opportunity for couples to renew or begin their marriage relationship through a new commitment to live purposefully for the world and God. In response to the breakdown of traditional marriage in our world, the Marriage Blessing offers a path to build a world of stronger marriages and healthier families. By participating in this ceremony, couples become part of a worldwide community of Blessed Couples striving to embody God’s true love, and create a better world of families. The Marriage Blessing takes traditional marriage to a higher level of purpose.

Where can I attend a Blessing Ceremony?

Many locations across the U.S. and world hold Marriage Blessing Ceremonies for couples in their community. You can contact any of the organizers, pastors, and mentors in your state who are responsible for organizing and conducting the ceremony. Click here to get in touch!

How can I learn more about the Marriage Blessing?

The best way to learn about the depth of the Marriage Blessing is to hear about it from real people. Click here to get in touch with a local educator to learn more about the value of the Marriage Blessing.

Click here to watch and read stories from others like yourself!

What is the history of the Marriage Blessing?

Rev. Sun Myung Moon and Dr. Hak Ja Han Moon, founders of Family Federation for World Peace and Unification, began the tradition of the Marriage Blessing in 1960 with their own wedding ceremony. Based on their lifelong commitment to a world of strong marriages and empowered families, the Marriage Blessing has become a worldwide tradition where couples dedicate their marriage before God. Since 1960, every year thousands of couples receive the Marriage Blessing across the U.S. and world.

How much does it cost to receive the Marriage Blessing?

The Blessing Offering is a monetary offering of sincere gratitude for receiving the Marriage Blessing. Also, it serves as a payment to participate in the event.

The standard payment due upon registering for the event is $210 for married individuals who were invited to attend the Marriage Blessing Ceremony.

Is the Blessing Ceremony a legal marriage ceremony?

In most cases, the Marriage Blessing Ceremony is not a legal wedding ceremony. Some couples are already married and those that are engaged are later legally married according to the laws of their own countries. The New York Times referred to a 1997 ceremony for 28,000 couples as a “marriage affirmation ceremony,” adding: “The real weddings were held later in separate legal ceremonies.”

I’m legally married. Can I still attend a Blessing Ceremony?

Absolutely! We welcome married couples to renew their marriage and take their relationship to a new level.

I'm currently single. Can someone help me find a potential spouse to receive the Marriage Blessing with?

Yes, we have developed a system of trained advisors who can support you to (1) learn about the Marriage Blessing, (2) find a potential spouse, (3) begin healthy communication, and (4) commit to receive the Marriage Blessing. Go to The Matching Process to learn more.

How can a person receive the Holy Wine Blessing if they are now single or divorced?

A single person (divorced or separated) can participate in the Holy Wine Ceremony for the purpose of purification and making a new start. By participating they are making a pledge to remain pure until the time they marry and receive the Marriage Blessing with their spouse.

Where do I apply to become a Marriage Blessing Officiator?

The application to become a Marriage Blessing Officiator can be found on the BFM website by clicking here.

Once you complete the application, it will automatically be sent to your District Pastor/Representative for review and approval.

Is it possible to Bless a previously married Couple (non-Unificationists or associate member) whose spouse has already passed to the spirit world? In other words, one spouse would attend and their ascended spouse would be present in spirit only.

It is possible for a non-Unificationist (or associate member) to be Blessed to their deceased spouse and receive the status of “Blessing Couple.” According to the International guidelines, the non-Unificationist will be able to participate in the Holy Wine Ceremony and receive the Benediction by the local pastor. It is good if they bring a photo of their deceased spouse to the ceremony.

However, to become a “Blessed Couple,” one must go to Cheong Pyeong to attend a special workshop and complete the 3-Day Ceremony.

It is important that the member apply online and pay the $210 Blessing Offering before the Blessing Ceremony. Once they become a full-fledged member, they are expected to pay the remainder to meet the standard $2000 donation. The application can be found at blessingamerica.org.

If you have any further questions regarding a spiritual Blessing, please contact Ayako Heller at our office: aheller@unification.org

I have recently been matched to a Blessed Child from another country through the family matching process. How do we apply for the Blessing?

Each country has their own Blessing application process and Blessing education requirements. You will each need to apply separately in your own country. Once you have both completed the application process, the countries will coordinate together to confirm your qualification status.

Where can I find information about the comfort blessing?

Detailed information about the comfort blessing can be found here.

Matching Process

When do I complete the Blessing Interview?

The Blessing Interview should be completed before entering the matching process. However, if you are matched and have not yet completed a Blessing Interview, you will need to complete one in order to report your match. In order to attend the Blessing Ceremony, the Blessing Interview must be completed within two years of your application date.

When do I submit my Matching Report?

As soon as you finalize your match, a Matching Report Form should be filled out. The form can be found here. You will need to upload a copy of your Matching Report to your online application and submit a copy to your local pastor.

What is an equivalent of a 7-day Divine Principle education?

The following can be considered as equivalent of 7-day DP education:

  • 7-day workshop at the International Peace Education Center (IPEC)
  • Full 3-day Original Divine Principle Workshop (not abbreviated).
  • 40-Day Cheong Pyeong Workshop, with full cycle of Divine Principle from beginning to end.
  • One year on GPA, STF, NGA (Next Generation Academy) or OLT (Oceanic Leadership Training).
  • Obtain DP Series DVDs from FFWPU-USA HQ, and study fully with parents or mentor.
  • If the above are impossible, reading and discussing the DP from beginning to end with parents or mentor can be substituted with permission.
Which HIV and STD tests are required?

The required tests are: HIV I & II, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Herpes II. We understand that when you give blood to the American Red Cross, you are automatically tested for these STDs. Therefore, we will accept an American Red Cross donor card in place of STD test results. Giving blood is free. If the HIV and STD tests are over a year old, they will need to be taken again.

How can I find a Matching Advisor?

You can find a list of Matching Advisors on our BFM website by clicking here.

Matching Advisors are certified by the BFM to help guide people through the matching process.

How can I find a Blessing Interviewer?

You can find a list of Blessing Interviewers on our BFM website by clicking here.

Blessing Interviewers are certified by the BFM to help people complete the Blessing Interview.

What is the matching process? Are there forms or requirements to complete prior to the commitment ceremony?

Our website provides clear instructions on the matching process and how to qualify as a matching candidate. Please click here.

The Matching Process consists of three stages:

  1. Preparing for the Matching
  2. Finding the One
  3. Becoming a Matched Couple
I have recently been matched to a Blessed Child from another country through the family matching process. How do we apply for the Blessing?

Each country has their own Blessing application process and Blessing education requirements. You will each need to apply separately in your own country. Once you have both completed the application process, the countries will coordinate together to confirm your qualification status.

Is there a matching website for first-generation Unificationists?

Yes, it is called the Online Matching System (OMS). It is the online site for first-generation members that North America, South America, Asia and Europe use to find a potential match. Members are welcomed to register from around the world.

The OMS link is cheon-il-guk.org.

What is OMS?

The Online Matching System (OMS) is a service provided by Cheon Il Guk Incorporated to the Blessed Family Departments worldwide. OMS works in conjunction with the various Blessed Family Departments of the Unification Movement and does not override their authority. OMS is simply a tool to facilitate the matching and blessing of Unificationists according to their faith.

Is there a requirement age to receive the Marriage Blessing?

According to the International guidelines, the minimum age to begin the matching process is 18 years. Based on this, anyone 18 and older can receive the Marriage Blessing.

Traditions

Where can I purchase Holy Robes?

To purchase a Holy Robe from Korea, you will need to place an order with the Clothing Department (Bo Gwang Ye Bok) of HSA-UWC Korea. When placing an order, please include Estimated Price: $200 Bank Wire transfer only.

Order by Fax or Phone only:

Fax: 011-82-2-458-6761

Phone: 011-82-2-458-6641

To purchase a Holy Robe in the USA, Keiko Pisano from Seattle can sew a Holy Robe for the cost of $200, plus shipping. She only makes the exterior robe, and not the interior clothing. You will need to place an order 2 weeks in advance. Please include your name, address, size, height, and chest measurements.

Order by phone: Keiko at (360) 882-3447

Where can we order the Attending Couples vests that are used in the Blessing Ceremony?

You will need to check with your local District Pastor for the Attending Couples vests. In February 2015, the BFM office sent three sets of vests for a total of 6 vests (2 sizes) to each district. If more vests are needed, they can be multiplied using the same pattern for sewing new vests with a similar color and fabric. Before beginning to sew the new vests, Holy Salt should be used on the fabric and thread. The district can make as many vests as needed.

Website

Where can I find the link to report the ascension of an individual?
Are webinars recorded? If so, how can I access them?

Webinar recordings are posted on our website at bfm.familyfed.org. The best way to stay updated with all BFM activity is to sign up for our weekly newsletter by clicking here.

Where can I find the Marriage Blessing Ceremony Vows?

The vows used in the Blessing Ceremony is located on the “Community Blessing Ceremony Kit,” which can be found by clicking here.

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