A strong, loving, and lifelong relationship doesn’t happen by chance. It takes effort and dedication to keep the fun and romance alive. We can all learn how to make even the happiest marriage better.
The Marriage Course was developed by Nicky and Sila Lee, co-authors of The Marriage Book and The Parenting Book. They have been married for over thirty years, have four children and are on the staff at Holy Trinity Brompton. They started The Marriage Preparation Course in 1985 and The Marriage Course in 1996, and the courses continue to spread with thousands of courses now running around the world.
Over seven sessions of the course you will discover practical tools to help you:
Understand each other’s needs
Communicate more effectively
Grow closer through resolving conflict
Heal the ways you’ve hurt each other
Recognize how your upbringing affects your relationship
Improve relationships with parents and in-laws
Develop greater sexual intimacy
Discover each other’s love languages and much, much more!
Sonja: ‘Before doing The Marriage Course we didn’t really understand how we each wanted to receive love. I would do what worked for me, and Paul would love in the way that worked best for him. In practice this meant that Paul, whose primary love language is physical touch, would frequently try to express love to me by putting his arm around me and giving me a kiss or cuddle. However, I grew up in the States in a home where we didn’t necessarily go round showing physical affection, so physical touch was not as important to me. Now because I’ve come to understand that it is very important to Paul, I try to make sure that I hold his hand or hug him or something like that.’
Paul: ‘I realized that kind words are something that’s more important to Sonja, more important than they are to me. She needs feedback and encouragement about her work, how she looks when we’re ready to go out, or if she’s made a nice meal.’
They said: ‘The course changed our attitudes towards each other. We came to understand so much about the way we could relate to each other and convey our feelings and love. It’s part of us now. It’s fantastic!’